Phizzy: Not sure if it was intentional or not, but you've created a bit of a "straw man" argument with this statement:
But I still stand by my "You should be ashamed" statement for those who go and do not make any kind of stand against the WT/JW machine in any way ever.
I didn't say "don't take a stand". For us, we take a very insidious, crafty, cautious stand. By attending the Memorial, we continue to have access to extended JW family, and therefore are able to take "baby step" stands against the WT in a way that doesn't completely shut us out from conversations with them. It's the path we've chosen.
Best to you on your path.
om